FBC – 226 – Is your entourage leading you down the wrong path?

Is your entourage leading you down the wrong path?

Today we are going to talk about the people around you… It's probably not what you think guys. We are going to cover a new topic that most of us completely overlook and that leads us to the wrong path without us realizing it.

If you want to know what this big mistake is, then tune it to today's podcast.

So the people you spend time with. We have already discussed this but no one ever talked about something else. Just a quick reminder of stuff we already discussed in the beginning. So I told you that when you're an entrepreneur, it's kind of complicated because it can't be very lonely.

Because you're doing everything by yourself. And spending time with other entrepreneurs is very beneficial for you because when you're talking to other people about what you do. People have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. But when you meet people who understand what you do and all the efforts and all the sacrifices and all the hustle, then it really helps. Spending time with people who understand this, people really like you. It is a godsend, right?

You can talk about stuff and brainstorm some ideas sometimes. So, you know, don't reveal everything you want to do and stuff. You don't want people, I mean, unless you really trust those people but it really helps. So having like-minded people around you helps. It helps a lot.

So one other thing we covered as well was, you know, I told you the five people you spend the most time with are going to have an incredible impact on your life. They're going to impact your behaviour. And people say that you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

And I advised you to find people who are actually motivating you and people who are where you want to be. Try to spend time with people who, you know, stimulate you intellectually or emotionally and stuff.

You don't want to find people who drag you down. That's not what you want. You want to move forward. I mean, that's one thing for me. I like to move forward. So there are like three things you can do.

You can you can stagnate. You'll feel bad about yourself. You'll be like, dude, what have I accomplished? It's not a good situation to be in. Right.

The other one is well you can go backwards, and that's even worse. And going backwards is not what you want to do, but you can move forward.

And this is what you should be doing every day. It doesn't mean that you need to make giant steps every day. Baby steps, I mean, just move forward and make small changes every day. You know, you're consistently working on stuff. When you look at it after, a few months or few years, you’ll be pleased about your progress.

So you want to hang around with people like that. Like-minded people, because, as I said, it's very uplifting. But here's the thing. Here's the kicker of today's podcast. Do you only want to hang around with like-minded people?

I mean, people who think like you. Exactly like you. So me, I fell into this trap. You surround yourself only with these people. All right. So me, though, the way it did it is.

I spend a lot of time by myself. And what happens is that, you know, those five people you need to hang out with, it doesn't have to be in person. It could be trainings or following someone's videos.

And basically, I created an environment where I was by myself doing my things and creating my things, but also having all these mentors and other people who are good in other areas where I'm not. They're specializing in something. So this was my Eco-System.

Is your entourage leading you down the wrong path?

And then what can happen is that you will create this environment where there is only one like dimension of the truth or of the perception of life, our universe and stuff. Right. So that's not good. You know, as I said, nature is very good at something and it's finding a balance. And I told you there are always extremes. Right.

And this is one of the extremes as well. If you only hang out with people who think the same, the way you think is not objective because people around you, they still have an influence on what you think.

And that happened to me. I created this perfect life for me, this perfect universe where, I mean, I didn't have to put up with a lot of crap. But instead of being friendlier and stuff, I created a universe where some of the things that other people do, I just couldn't stand it anymore.

That's what I want to avoid for you guys. It's just one manifestation of what I'm saying here. But, you know, if you're brought up in a in an environment where everybody thinks that, you know, the glass is half empty and everybody sees the glass half empty, you'll see the glass half empty.

If you don't have someone who tells you, dude, the glass is half full, then you would never think that. And your chain of thought is unbalanced. And it's not very objective. You want people who have a different opinion.

So you don't have to agree on stuff, right? We don't have to agree. But at least I understand. I'm like, oh, you know what? I do understand why you think this way, your interpretation or your belief about this. But it does make sense. I do understand what it comes from and that keeps you grounded and makes you understand others and understand the fact that people, I mean, are 7.5 billion possible opinions of something.