FBC – 71 – Keep your friends even closer

Keep your friends even closer.

In this episode, we are going to discuss how you should handle to the people who helped you get to where you are now.

So today I wanted to talk to you about something that's really dear to me. Moral values. I think these are values that are important for your success. Some people might disagree. It's not important to them but for me it's very important. And that notion is not to forget the people who supported you in the beginning and the people supported you along the way.

I'm talking about the people who forget what other people did for them. It's very true that what you achieve or great majority of that success comes from you your grit your perseverance, your patience, your resilience and all the sleepless nights you put into that stuff. Because you're the one to make it happen.

But there are a certain percentage of people who help you as well you know. So it's not necessarily like monetary support or something but you know some people believe in you, they introduced you to X Y Z and stuff like that.

I never forget the people who helped me. And one day I will make sure that if they need something from me then they’ll have it.

So I have a good friend named Audrey she's the best right. So we were in the same class for our postmaster’s degree. And I struggled after graduating and stuff because I was looking for a job and nobody wanted to hire me. So you know. Maybe there is something I could have done more, you know or not maybe more but something different.

Anyway I couldn't find a job or anything for like a year and a half. So what she used to do was whenever she saw an ad for a job, even though we had the exact same training and the same diploma, she would apply and she will send me the ad. She didn't have to do that.

And what most people will do is that if you find something you just keep it for yourself. And this is the default behaviour. But she helped me. She didn't have to. She could have kept it for herself. And we were like competitors. She didn't have to help me.

And you know down the line when I started having success and I wanted to help her.  And you know just to thank her for everything she did for me, I started a women’s fashion blog and we worked together and we made it a big success. I mean it was really awesome.

It was a really big success and a lot of fun. It basically allowed her to have a sizable side income, because she had plans to like build a house and everything but she was wondering how she was going to finance that. And because of this, she doesn't have to go and borrow money from the bank and all that stuff and this is something that I wanted to do for her because she helped me.

Keep your friends even closer

There is another amazing story about another buddy of mine, but I’ll save that for the podcast.

It's very easy to be friends with someone who is already successful. It's harder to do it with someone who's not. So you have nothing to gain out of doing that. When you do that for someone who is famous then you have something to gain, like some recognition or people would be like oh man you know a star well you're hoping that they'll do something for you or whatever. It's very easy.

But your real friends are the people who were here before when you didn't have anything. You didn't have that status or whatever. And these are the people you should stick to and you should thank them for it you know. And again it’s not monetary support. My friends didn't even buy anything for me.

You know Audrey. She gave me a chance to find a job that would help me move forward in life. Right. When she didn't have to. And my other buddy gave me a lot.

There is no expiration date on my gratitude. I will always remember that whatever happens, I will not forget what that person did for me. All right. If there is anything I can do for that person and even know we're not like you know the best terms and we're not talking or anything or whatever then I will do it you know.

And this is something I encourage you guys to do. It doesn't have anything to do with business or whatever. It’s reflecting the values or moral values and who you want in your life as well. You want people who are genuine. You don't want people there because it's working for you and tomorrow when it stops working then all of a sudden you lose all your friends.