FBC – 114 – The Law Of Attraction

Have you ever heard of the law of attraction? Is it a myth OR it actually manifests itself in people's lives? We are going to discuss that in this episode.

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So to day I wanted to talk to you about adding value and offering support before you ask anything from anybody.

Because we all have someone in our entourage who who's always asks for favours and is never there when you need anything. All right. So that can work for maybe once or twice but then afterwards it doesn't work. And then very quickly these people will actually exhaust all the tickets they have with you.

So a relationship has to be a mutual relationship right. So it's not just one dimensional, with one person getting everything. And my take is that you should give more than you receive. So everybody says that. But when you do the math, how does that work if everybody does more than they receive?

I generally believe that your first intention should be to help others and bring value before you ask anybody to do anything. I'm one of those people who hates when people do stuff for me. I hate it when people you know when I get gifts and I don't like it you know I'm more of that type of person who likes to do stuff for others.

Other people don't like to do anything for anybody, but I think you know if you do stuff for other people then it will eventually come back.

People talk about the law of attraction and all that stuff because you hear a lot about if you do good, then good is gonna come back and stuff which is I think it's actually true. I like these kinds of people because they've always been nice. And you can see how nice they are with people and when they need something, then you'll be there for them.

The Law Of Attraction

You don't have to make some like crazy calculations of how much did that person help me all stuff. I mean some people do. Someone who is genuinely nice and cares about other people, people notice and people will give stuff in return.

So here I'm just talking in general. I'm not talking business or anything.

And this basic Law of Attraction like you do this and then the universe is gonna send something back I don't entirely agree. It's not the universe. I think people notice and people will give back to you. No it's not just like a random coincidence and the universe is working in your favour.

I really think it's very important in life to have this balance. That's how you build genuine relationships. You know it's very visible when you see people who do stuff because they need something from you. You know it's very visible. You know they may fool you once or something but know at some point you know when you have a little bit of experience then you can feel that.

Frequently Asked Questions

Does the law of attraction actually work?

The mystical version is unproven, but the reticular activating system in the brain genuinely filters attention toward whatever you focus on. Naming clear goals shifts what opportunities you notice in conversations, articles, and inbox. The mechanism is attention, not magic.

How do you use the law of attraction productively?

Write your top three goals in one sentence each, read them every morning for 30 days, and act on the first opportunity you notice that fits. The combination of clarity, repetition, and immediate action is what produces results, not visualization alone.

Why does adding value to others come before asking for help?

Reciprocity is the most reliable wealth-building behavior across decades of networking studies. Operators who give first build a default trust account they can draw on years later when they actually need it. Asking before giving signals you treat relationships as transactions, which closes most doors immediately and permanently.

What kills the law of attraction in practice?

Vague goals and zero follow-through. People who write I want to be successful and then take no action attract nothing, because the brain has nothing concrete to filter for. Specific, dated, and measurable goals are the difference between wishful thinking and useful focus.

About the Author

Martin Ebongue is the founder of martinebongue.com, an online business and lifestyle design blog focused on helping aspiring entrepreneurs build location-independent businesses. Since 2014, he has been creating and scaling online ventures across multiple niches, from digital products and affiliate marketing to SaaS and content platforms, while traveling the world. He shares the real-world strategies, tools, and systems that work, with a particular focus on AI-powered automation for solopreneurs. Follow him on YouTube, X (Twitter), and Instagram.

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